I talk it out. To myself, I talk to myself a lot actually, but I find I will have a huge vent and rage and just say it all, and often multiple times, like I am telling someone else what happened, even though I know all the info etc...I say it as though I'm talking to someone who knows nothing, which does mean I go on lots of tangents with back stories etc... This mostly happens when I'm driving, but I drive a lot (over an hour Commute to work) so that is my process time.
I then crank the music, I pick songs I know the lyrics for, and I sing them, and I put all my emotions into them, (once again often when driving otherwise Spock or dh distract me, and I can't sing so dh whinges ).
Driving does relax me too, so often just going for a drive helps, I cruise along country roads, (easy here, I can drive and not see anyone for 10mins). And can do little streets slowly around town or go on the hwy at 100km depending on what I need.
Depends what I am processing, this can take a few sessions. I then, do the calm meditation. There is no point me doing it if I haven't talked out loud about what happened first. Then I just close my eyes (not while driving) and do deep breathing and go to my place and try to focus on the calmness.