I usually call my bestie, depending on what it is. If I can't do that, or have coffee with a mate here, then I'll have a hot shower, or sit in my car port, with a drink & maybe a cigarette, if I have any (not a big smoker). I do usually have at least one drink though...

Just that 10 minutes time out from the kids to think it through is enough to at least calm me down.

The problem with me is that even if it isn't the kids causing the problem, I usually end up taking it out on them if I'm not careful. They are the only ones I have around me... So that 10 minutes outside is as much for them as it is for me.