I wouldn't recommend how I do it. I beat myself with it for years and years and years, and passively let it affect my self esteem and relationships, before very slowly hiking my way out of the hole I've dug for myself.
As I said, I wouldn't recommend that. I now try to just make sure it doesn't happen again, and suck all the learning I can from it, so it's not a totally wasted experience. Some lessons are harder to learn than others.
When I start having a regret, I actually question why its a regret. Is it something that I can change now? Is it something that needs closure? would that help me or others involved? If yes then I will try and 'fix' it.
However, a lot fo the time I need to remind myself that regrets are pointless. Every decision, step, commitment I have made in my life has got me to where I am today. I have in most cases learnt from the things that I regret from time to time and so long as I acknowledge those lessons, and make sure I dont repeat the past.
If I am not happy in my current situation and I am regretful of the decisions I have made then its time to re-evaluate and move in another direction.
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