I totally understand what your saying about identify, replace and repeat! DP likened it to giving up smoking...similar i guess, It has really helped talking about it with DP in more depth.

Im sorry that you have been through such a hard time with your own mother, but you have done such a good thing for your self and your family, being able to break the chain!!!! Thanks so much for sharing your experiences. I will have a look at getting some good reading matterial. Hugs to you.xx