Looking for some others opinions... when you give more by not giving...

[Phteven]

There is a Chinses proverb: Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.

If we can empower by giving then it's great but if our giving disempowers then maybe we need to reconsider.

[mrsmac]

I think giving is good sometimes I think you might need to hold back in some of the instances you have described (and I think you know this deep down)
One thing I have learnt is that sometimes giving is actually easy and that freely accepting/taking is actually harder. Sometimes it takes a lot to accept help/love/money etc
Some people especially those who are givers are not very comfortable "taking" IYKWIM. Sometimes allowing someone else to be the giver can be a very great gift.

These incherant ramblings by mrsmac-sorry LOL

[Arimeh]

I'm a very giving person - its just my nature too I suppose. However, if I found myself giving to the same person over and over and over - I wouldnt' be so quick to give too many times

But if its just random people - yup, give give give.

[AnyDream]

Yep I think you're right, sometimes it is better to withhold consciously then to give. I think the key here is your level of consciousness/awareness around the transaction. In that way, if you're giving reflexively then maybe it's better to stop and think and then decide. I don't think it's a case of it being your place or not to decide about 'giving out a lesson' - but rather that a person who's trying to live a wisdom filled life will necessarily attempt to apply a process of discernment to whatever decisions they're making.