Making peace with 'good enough'

[Rouge]

We run in different circles. Bangers and mash is the best.

Fore I'll be honest. Things change depending on what stage of life I'm at. Pre kids I and before my second child I was a clean freak. I still am but I tell her to shut up most of the time. When my kids were little I was a lot more easy going with routine. And schoolwork. But the closer my DD gets to living in the real world I feel the pressure to make sure she has all the right skills. I don't put pressure on her. But I do worry more.

(Ooo have to run will post more later)

[wysiwyg]

I think having a 'lazy gene' helps :-)

I am reading a book at the moment called "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown - tagline "Let Go of Who Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are". I am not far through it - but it might interest you? - is funny because normally I am not into 'self-help' type books at all but I read an article somewhere which referenced it and I thought it just sounded interesting - although I think I am quite good at embracing who I am, I still thought I might learn something.

[Jellyfish]

I think having a 'lazy gene' helps :-)

I am reading a book at the moment called "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown - tagline "Let Go of Who Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are". I am not far through it - but it might interest you? - is funny because normally I am not into 'self-help' type books at all but I read an article somewhere which referenced it and I thought it just sounded interesting - although I think I am quite good at embracing who I am, I still thought I might learn something.

Reminds me of a quote that I find helpful in parenting - "If your child is more important than your vision of your child, life becomes easier." Sandra Dodd.

[wysiwyg]

I think this is the quote that lead me to the book

Wherever perfectionism is driving, shame is riding shotgun. Perfectionism is not about healthy striving, which you see all the time in successful leaders, it's not about trying to set goals and being the best we can be, perfectionism is basically a cognitive behavioral process that says if I look perfect, work perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid shame, ridicule, and criticism. It's a defense mechanism.

When I interview leaders, artists, coaches, or athletes who are very successful, they never talk about perfectionism as being a vehicle for success. What they talk about is that perfectionism is a huge trigger, one they have to be aware of all the time, because it gets in the way of getting work done.

It was from a business article called "WHY DOING AWESOME WORK MEANS MAKING YOURSELF VULNERABLE" but I think it translates.