It took me an awfully long time to realize that I need me time. DP works shifts and on alternate weeks isn't here for the dinner, bath, bed routine. He often needs to sleep during the day and also often works weekends. I have no family nearby so the only way I can get a break is childcare which for me is worth it's weight in gold. Unfortunately on those days DP might be home/need to sleep so I can't just do what I want and that's very frustrating.