I have stacks of regrets! DH asks me whether I'd change stuff though, and generally the answer is no. (Or yes, with lots of conditions, like that the future has to be exactly the same, but then it gets too confusing and I end up saying no.)
I love that from my mistakes I've learned lessons, had opportunities to change and grow, to deepen relationships, and lots more - but I still do regret every time I don't do what I know to be right or wise.
I don't think it's bad to acknowledge that, and I don't want to forget that regret entirely (although unhelpful dwelling is a different thing) - because remembering the past will help me to do better in my future. If I don't remember 'remember the time you made that mistake and how much you regret that' then I could easily make it again.
As others have said I too try to live my life thinking the past has made me who I am today but in all honesty I still have my days where I think about the what if's and how things could have been if done differently, I think that's natural but you have to pull yourself back out of that.
I could write a 100 part series on all the things I've wonder if I could have done better/differently lol
I have lots of regrets, mainly about my miss spent youth and early 20's. Although, I don't regret the lessons that I learnt during this time. Lately I've been dwelling on the should haves but I know I can't change anything and everything is as it should be for now.
I would like to say I have this giant mountain of a regret sitting in my past, but I don't have that luxury. I would love to regret every moment spent with my XH just so that I could then honestly hate those years and purge them from memory...
But I won't purge my two kids. I wouldn't then and I won't now.
In essence, every regret you wish you could change would probably come with a price. It makes it easier to live with when you realise you couldn't afford to pay it.
I have made a lot of mistakes but as others have said, I have learnt from those mistakes. I can't regret circumstances that have brought me to my DH and subsequently my DS.
So yeah, I just try to learn from my experiences and move on. Easier said than done sometimes though!
My older sister warned me years ago that herself and a lot of her friends when they hit 40 deeply dwelled on the past of what they should or shouldn't have done !!!
Her telling me this taught me regrets or no regrets it's what helped bring you to who YOU are today and helped shaped you into who you have become and besides in my 40's i don't seem to think about any regrets hardly ever as the *concerns* of aging simply has taken over (no kidding), LOL yep a whole new chapter to come !!
i try not to regret things in the past, but my mum is making me regret having welcomed her back into my life!!
i dont realy dwell on things ive done, but more the things i didnt do, my mind tends to wander towards the "what ifs"
after re-reading that, thats the same thing isnt it??? only the things that wernt done instead of the things that were.... hmm i think ive got a bit of trying to stop over thinking to do here!!
DH asks me whether I'd change stuff though, and generally the answer is no. (Or yes, with lots of conditions, like that the future has to be exactly the same, but then it gets too confusing and I end up saying no.)
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