Shel - I don't have regrets, I have lessons that I have learned but no regrets. I did what I could at the time.
Thinking about my past this way is something I have had to work at, alot. I can't focus on the now and the future when I was spending so much time in the past.
Everyone is different and everyone handles things differently, try not to bet yourself up about things too much.
I try to think of past mistakes as life's little lessons. Sure there are things that I wish I hadn't done, but most of the big ones have taught me a lesson without which I would not be who I am today. One of my biggest mistakes lead me to my DH. So I try to look for the positive lesson rather than dwell on what I should have done differently ITMS.
I have loads of regrets but over time I've learnt that there's no point dwelling on them. I'll never get to re-live the parts of my life I regret and the things I've done or haven't done have made me who I am today and I'm happy with who I am.
I think that's the secret, be happy with who you are and your regrets won't matter.
I feel i am who i am today coz of what has happened in my life..I am strong independent and feel like i am older than my years coz of the things that have happened
I have also been through a lot and i normally dont regret my past i feel i have learnt from it and its made me ME... I would not be the person i am today without my past..
If i could take away the things iv done ,or had done i would have to think long and hard about it ,and would prob not do it
Although in saying that there is a couple of annoying nagging thoughts in my head atm that i want to push out ,and iv been trying to work through those atm in my head LOL
I have made so many mistakes in my life. I often feel like my life has been a series of blunders and errors but the funny thing is I have very seldom had any regrets because for most of my life I have been pretty happy and it's all my mistakes that have bought me to where I am.
My regrets are mainly for the small things that can't be fixed like the times I have hurt people's feelings.
I try not to dwell on them but sometimes they do pop up and I don't like the fact that I hurt some people along the way and can't take back that hurt. When mine pop up I ask myself why it is that I am dwelling on some major ones at that time, usually something has happened to stir things up and brought them to the forefront again. Is there something that is bringing up these feelings for you now?? Maybe look at why and why now as you deal with them. xoxo It's not nice at all and can be really difficult but I try to live for now. Not the past and not always the future either because you don't know what will happen in the next 5 mins sometimes but for now and what you can focus on in the present.
the one regret I have is not taking picture of my darling daughter when she was born at the time it seemed right but as the years go on and people start to forget or only focus on my living children I regret I dont have her picture hangning on my wall its in my heart its in my head I can close my eyes and still see and remember her smell and how soft her skin was, but nobody else can see what I see and till the day I die and rejoin my beautiful baby I will regret the decision we made 7 years ago
Good thread, and I think you will get a lot of responses for this one.
As for me. On my right wrist I have "No Regrets" tattoed on me. Its pretty much my life motto. I don't believe (for me personally) in having regrets. I have been through a crap load in my life (which is pretty sad, being only 24 and feeling about 40) and I have had some pretty horrific things done to me, which will be with me for the rest of my life. I have done things I am not proud of etc. But do I regret any of it? Nope. Why? In my eyes, if you can't make mistakes and grow from them, how do you learn? I once had someone ask me if I could have a magic wand waved over me to take away every bad thing that has ever happend to, would I do it. My response? No. I honestly wouldn't. Because the things that have happend to me, the things I have done, the lessons that I have learned have made me who I am. Without those things, I am not me. I would be a completely different person. Everyone in life will make mistakes, but its how you deal with them that matters. You learn from them and you do grow as a person. Thats the sort of stuff that shapes you. HTH, really just my own opinion lol
Oh I have tonnes of regrets but if you dwell on them and go 'what if', then that is just grieving, and not helping you learn from the mistake and move on.
I dont have any regrets per se...there are a few things I think iwish I had done sooner (like leaving xp) but then I think about how I would not have then taken certain paths and would never have met dh, as if I did leave xp sooner I wouldnt have gone to work in a psrticular town and been in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Life xhoices lead us to where we are today, going down diffetent paths would take us to different places and I like where I am now =)
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