Great article Kelly! And very timely! But i disagree on one point: you can be a charitable person, ie kind in your opinion of others... but still be neurotic... i am a case in point
Last edited by Bathsheba; August 6th, 2010 at 03:11 PM.
Interesting article! I agree - you can tell huge amounts about people by the way they speak, respond about & to others. Defensiveness, reactivity, seeing the negative & ill intent in others is something that rings little bells for me personally.
I guess for me it says that a person isn't self responsible or able to be balanced in approaches to others.
I think we all have the ability (& exercise it!) - but being able to say: "gee whizz I was a bit silly" or whatever tells us that a person can be self regulating.
I think most ofus knows how difficult it is to be around those who continually speak ill or negatively of others/situations.
I dunno. I see many people in a good light and like to think the best of people. But ask me to describe my SiL, my mum's sister or one other particular person I know... I would come out as a negative, nasty person!
I am a ridiculously positive person most of the time, yet I still have toxic people in my life who I have tried for years in some cases to like and there is nothing positive or even polite I could say about them.
Ryn I think we all individually have toxic folk in our life (it's my belief that we invite them on a level to help us grow in the areas we need to - whole other thread!).
I think personally the article is more about generally speaking how we see others and "take" their comments. We all know people where we have to watch very carefully how we word things for fear of attack or offense or upset. It's just hard work being around people that choose to "take" what is said as a personal affront. I reckon this article just points that out succinctly!
I never invited my BiL or SiL in, nor my aunt... can I kick them out of my life for trespassing then? LMAO, pretty please with a cherry on top? Family without evil, how great would that be?
Good article but like all things like this you cannot take it as an absolute, there are variables here but for the purpose of the article of course they can't all be mentioned. It's an overall outlook but not the definitive in every social situation
I can't stand toxic people. If I think you're toxic I'll be rid of you as soon as I can. But on the flip side I'm often the one that sees the nice in people where others do not So I hardly fit any mold. But like I said it's all relative. I know people who are extremely negative and judgmental of others and that is because they feel internally this way about themselves. Just as I know people who are continually sprouting self help and affirmations and it's because they themselves are quite damaged and need help. So in reality this is very true, but as I said just don't forget the variables.
And Bath... is there anything wrong with being neurotic? I swear it's saved me many times LOL!
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