I understand the concept...and when applied to things like 3 year old sibling squabbles, it makes sense.

But in terms of human adult interactions - I can't do it. People do silly things, foolish thing,s things without thinking...but they perform these acts as a representation of their beliefs and values, a reflection of who they are and what they believe in -and these things usually show the price for sell out of those values.
Does that make sense?
To take an extreme example. A rapist. Their acts cannot be separated from their 'self' - their acts are a direct reflection of their core values, beliefs and what it took to venture into the "bad act". The price of their humanity or their social respect, for want of a better phrase.

So whilst I think for children in the situation of the very over used "I hate..." phrase, then yes - you don't HATE your brother because he took your toy or ripped the head off your babrie, you are unhappy that he hurt you. The use of the word HATE to me is the issue - not one person expressing hurt and anger at being hurt by someone close and trusted.

hmmm...did that waffle make sense? lol