After having kids??

I'e been thinking about this all afternoon. I used to be someone who had a huge social life...even after having Miss J. I used to go out for coffee with all my friends (with and without kids), had my hair done, eye brows waxed, go to mothers groups, kept in contact with people from work then.
I have tried so many times to arrange coffee with friends but everyone either always has other plans, pulls out at the last min or just don't even bother replying to texts/emails or call back - even to say they can't make it, so I go and have coffee on my own with the girls, I go to the park on my own all the time with the girls, we go to music time, gymnastics and swimming, everything I do is on my own or with my girls.
I know it sounds like i'm whinging but to me I feel like i'm losing everything that I am in an emotional/social sense. I'm someone who thrives on being social and am finding it hard to accept that this is how it is.

After getting some mail today it made me start thinking... i'm nothing but a mummy now. The letter was addressed to DH from an organisation we have been working with/for for over 10 years each and the letter was addressed to DH only. All previous mail has been addressed to both of us or we'd get the same thing but in 2 enevelopes. It got me thinking about that I'm not valued there anymore - not enough to be acknowledged in mail, not even a phone call or text to say congrats when we had Miss S.

I try talking to DH about this kinda stuff but he doesn't get it. Sometimes I'd love him to say that he thinks i'm a great mum/wife and how much he appreciates me for the person that I am, to hug me and tell me he loves me without me having to say it first or to even just hug me and not say anything.
I know my girls love me and tell me in their own way.

I'm sure this all sounds like rambling and if it makes any type of sense to you then well done There is more I want to add but jsut not sure atm how to word what I want to say.

What do you all do to retain any part of who you were before you had kids?