I know exactly how you feel. I am slightly older (27) but I still have friends who stay away, even my best friend since childhood didn't come to visit me until last week

But in answer to your question, I do several things to help me stay true to myself. I sew when I can. Just small projects these days...some bibs, cushion covers, things for DD, but it helps. I go to dance classes, I do pilates, I also try and go out for dinner with a few friends or my sister as often as I can.

I know its harder with two, but in the coming months you will find yourself a bit free-er to go out alone and perhaps find some space for yourself.

Can you join your nearest ABA group (if you breastfeed), or try and find some mummies close by you can hang out with? I managed to find two women I now see almost every day, just by meeting one on the street...so you never know!