Warning...huge ramble ahead!!

[C~Q]

IFor you personally though, with your list, it’s putting a lot of pressure to get the things to "be happy" does it mean you cant be happy til you get them?? What if you get them and then your still not happy???? Would you rather be "happy" that your kids have the opportunity to go to UNI, but its ok if they don’t want to. Can you be happy that you’re comfortable in a rented home, rather than struggling to OWN one? Can you be happy that you are open to meeting someone rather than feeling the pressure of analysing whether every person you meet may or may not be THE ONE???!!!

Thanks hun...and can I say thanks to everyone that has answered...it's so interesting to me to hear what everyone thinks.

When I talked about all these things to make my life "perfect" I kind of didn't mean it...I mean, I meant it but only in a certain place in my mind...not in reality...does that make sense. And the examples I used were just things I plucked out to make people understand where I was coming from...although I do want those things they may not be the mst important things iykwim?? I would like the kids to go to uni but I don't mind if they don't, I guess what I mean is more the idea that they can if they want. In my perfect life there won't be any other reason other than they don't want to go. Does that make sense?

I don't think I have any question here really, it's more a big blurt out of what was in my head. And I think I can narrow it down to me trying to comprehend that inside of every single person is the same thing that is inside of me...all the thoughts, dreams, dramas, fears...it's all in all of us and I don't live in my own version of the Trumen Show...or do I...lol

[Sagres]

When I talked about all these things to make my life "perfect" I kind of didn't mean it...I mean, I meant it but only in a certain place in my mind...not in reality...does that make sense. And the examples I used were just things I plucked out to make people understand where I was coming from...although I do want those things they may not be the mst important things iykwim?? I would like the kids to go to uni but I don't mind if they don't, I guess what I mean is more the idea that they can if they want. In my perfect life there won't be any other reason other than they don't want to go. Does that make sense?

Yep I totally understand and knew you didn't literally mean you were running around trying to make life perfect. Hearing your loud and clear.

[~StarBright~]

Yeah i think i got that, those are things you would love to have- and realistically you can have them and you are probably working towards getting them.. and it got you to thinking what do other people strive for.... which got me thinking why do we strive at all.. lol what is the point to life and what is the real motivation for each individual to do things.....

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm..........