When I am going to get judged, c’mon I’m spoiling for a fight!

[Jennifer13]

Are you feeding that baby of yours anything real yet? Look at the size of him - your milk is not going to be enough!



Feel better yet? Personally, I think you probably are being judged enough IRL but you're just far too self-assured for anyone to dare challenge you. Plus, your kids are turning out so great, what are they going to say?

[Maruschke]

From a different perspective...

I think you [generic you] have judged others when you expect them to judge you, and just sit around waiting for an event to happen that proves it. You've made an assumption about their character without any evidence.

[briggsy's girl]

From a different perspective...

I think you [generic you] have judged others when you expect them to judge you, and just sit around waiting for an event to happen that proves it. You've made an assumption about their character without any evidence.

i think when you read about (or cop yourself) negative comments on everything in life, you kinda expect that BF is just one more thing for someone to say something about.

i have chosen not to spend time around certain members of my family now that DD is older because they ARE judgmental - they've not been in a position to say anything to me personally, but i've watched them say it to another family member, and watched how she hurt - and the fact that they just didn't give a damn how much they hurt her

so yeah, maybe being on the defensive is not giving the general community at large the benefit of the doubt - but at the same time, when you've been criticised by the people who should be most supportive of you about every other aspect of your life, it's kinda hard to have faith that those attitudes are limited to your genetic line!

[misty]

Bullies pick their victims. No-one ever says anything to me either. I have been told (and believe it it probably likely) that it is because I come across as someone who wouldn't just sit there and tale it. Those people I know who have been targeted by judgemental comments, tend to be less sure of themselves in general and give off a vibe that they won't argue back or defend themselves from critism.

I too await the day someone is stupid enough to say anything to me (or about someone else in my hearing).... But because I am spoiling for an oppertunity to let loose, it will probably never happen.