When I am going to get judged, c’mon I’m spoiling for a fight!

[TeniBear]

From a different perspective...

I think you [generic you] have judged others when you expect them to judge you, and just sit around waiting for an event to happen that proves it. You've made an assumption about their character without any evidence.

You know what? That is completely and totally true. I do tend to judge what I think they're going to think of me. Tomorrow, I'm going to try and change my perspective on their perspective. We really aren't judged as much in Aus as in America, but since we hear all the stories from over there, we think it's just as common.


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[Maruschke]

You know what? That is completely and totally true. I do tend to judge what I think they're going to think of me. Tomorrow, I'm going to try and change my perspective on their perspective. We really aren't judged as much in Aus as in America, but since we hear all the stories from over there, we think it's just as common.


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That's great. I've made this mistake before and lost some potential friends because of it. Heck, I've even done it in BB and presumed I'd be judged for FF when it just didn't happen. We must be careful we do not create self fulfilling prophecy.

[Epacris]

Hey Maruschke, that is a really interesting perspective, one I had never even considered before. And yes you are right, I do judge people, all the time. I almost always keep my judgements to myself or try very hard to find a diplomatic way of approaching things, but this is honestly not what this thread is about.

I just see so many people saying, “you’ve judged me” when really all they are doing is making an honest observation, there’s no “value” in their comments at all. And all the threads about what strangers say and do to people, I can’t believe some of the absolutely awful things some of you have been through. Seriously, why don’t those sort of pope pick on me? Exactly like Misty, I think, I can take it, hell I’m up for it!!!

[Maruschke]

Yep I understand. Nothing wrong with being prepared to defend yourself against others judgements.

[willow5]

'I too have been ready to go' with come backs and facts(my memory is so crap I have a little card in my purse with some nutritional content facts of breast milk in the second year in case I go blank ) This came about from a couple of comments from people here in BB, nothing nasty, just saying there was no nutritional value in bfing after about 6 months, and no antibody benefits after the first 6weeks because all the good stuff is in the colostrum etc. I just wanted to have facts so I didn't give a completely defensive emotional response if it ever came about IRL. But it has never happened...yet

I completely get what you're saying too Maruschke. But I've never sat in public bfing and singled out a particular person or group of people thinking they may be the one to say something to me. I'm more just prepared if someone did. So I don't think I'm judging anyone, or everyone, just aware that there are judgemental people out there. IYKWIM, I'm not sure I do I'm so tired at the moment but I tried to explain myself lol.