You are perfect

[Heaven]

I understood what you were saying Traveller. That everyone is perfect. You are the perfect you. No one can be more perfect at being you than you are.

Thank you, that was lovely. I tell my children everything they are good at also. And I'm trying to also speak about myself the same way. Tell them that my body is amazing, that I am good at some things, that I am beautiful. It's hard!!

[Yael]

I totally get what you are doing, because I hate my body also, and want my kids not to, but at the same time it might backfire if they ever do feel negatively towards a body part and their whole reason for being told they were perfect was because of their body.

I tell my kids (especially my daughter because everyone goes on about her looks) that they reason that she is beautiful is because she has a beautiful soul, and that's what shine through and makes her look beautiful. I talk about the wonderful character traits she has, of being happy, of helping others etc, as making her a beautiful person.

Don't know if it''s a guaranteed way to make her not have the same issues I have (then again, she won't have a mother telling her the only way she swould be betiful is if she went anorexic for a while), but I don't know if there are ever guaranteed ways regarding this type of thing. I just hope it works

[Mak]

Lenny that sounds lovely. We also talk about loving them no matter what and that whilst we may not like a behaviour or action that we still love them.