For me, I had to let myself actually feel it, and let it affect me. My PCOS got so bad, I had 2 periods 8 months apart. By the time I finally got my period, I was hopitalised with a suspected ectopic pregnancy, as the pain was absolutely excruciating.
Obviously I had a couple of days off work, but when I went back I was told that 'period pain is not really an acceptable excuse for not attending work'. At first I started to apologise, and then something snapped - I said to my boss 'Actually, this is my first period in 8 months. You know the pain your wife is in every month? Imagine that multiplied by 8, plus the emotional pain of getting a BFP on a HPT because of the sheer amount of hormones running through your body, only to be told that you're just getting your period.' It kinda left him speechless!
I know we shouldn't hafta tell people what's going on in our lives if we don't want to, but I think it makes it easier to cope, and easier for people to understand what you're going through. They think its only a 'bad period', but they won't understand the difference until someone educates them.
I have felt like a hypochondriac that often it is not funny!!! I have lost friends as they just don't understand , I have explained about my pain 1000,000,000,'s of times but its as if it goes in one ear and out the other. I seen one of my "friends" two weeks after my lap. I told her that the next morning after my lap I was out shopping for fish for good friday, and getting ready to have family visit for lunch on good friday. I swear she looked at me as if I had 3 heads and told me that after her lap she was in bed for days and that she would rather have a C -section (she has had 3 of them) before another lap. My answer to that was "I am in pain most of the time, I always just do what I can untill it's(the pain) too much and then I go to bed and sleep".
I can't say that I own my pain but I have just come to the fact that I am in pain all the time. It's just other people who get at me with the way they treat me (the rolling of eyes and the way they talk to me).
Sophie: If I were you I would just say that you have Endo and if anyone asks for any more info say your waiting for conformation of diagnosis via lap.
There is one thing that I do to help me with pain (when I can), I lay in bed (after taking pan forte with my heat packs) and visulise something and really concentrate on it and I tend to relax and fall asleep. I also love hot baths for my pelvic pain.
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, I have explained about my pain 1000,000,000,'s of times but its as if it goes in one ear and out the other. I seen one of my "friends" two weeks after my lap. I told her that the next morning after my lap I was out shopping for fish for good friday, and getting ready to have family visit for lunch on good friday. I swear she looked at me as if I had 3 heads and told me that after her lap she was in bed for days and that she would rather have a C -section (she has had 3 of them) before another lap. My answer to that was "I am in pain most of the time, I always just do what I can untill it's(the pain) too much and then I go to bed and sleep". 
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