Ducky, I completely understand!
Even my hubby keeps saying: "When you are better after your op..."!!!!!!!!! Yet he has been with me through the crap for the last 5 years!!!
Nobody but the sufferer fully understands the illness. I am not working at the moment because of how bad things are, yet the "daily depression" is driving me out of my mind! I try and talk to family, they don't care (brother just had his 4th child so that is all we ever hear...I have now stopped calling - thank god they live on the other side of the world otherwise I would physically throttle my mother!!!) and as for the in-laws...well, just like your mum, they think once the op is over with then everything will be wonderful.
I too am constantly
Hugs x