It sounds like you have hit the nail on the head. New mothers are often encouraged to express a feed for their partner to feed in a bottle to the baby. But the reality is that the mother has double the workload - first they have to get the milk out, and then some-one has to get it back in. Generally the mother lies in bed, stiff as a board -listening to evey sound, and then wakes up sore and engorged. It's just not worth it. Have baby sleep in your bed, or in arms reach. You feed and then your partner does any associated burping or settling. Overall everyone gets more sleep