Always thought I wanted a few kids, but now I don't think I want more...? Anyone else

[~clover~]

All I can say is never say never. You might stay happy with Jazz forever, you might have another in 2 years, you might wait 10 years.
Its obviously a bit more complicated for you guys to have kids than most of us, so I wouldn't blame you at all for settling on one. You guys haven't exactly had a walk in the park, but you have come along way!
It is a decision that only you guys can make.

[BabyMama]

Hi Leash

Just thought I'd put my 2 cents in - I posted almost the exact thing a couple of months ago. I always wanted 2 or 3 kids but now that I've got DS (he turns 1 today BTW - ) I just can't imagine 'sharing' myself with another child.

We're just going with the flow. If we never get that urge for another child then we'll stick to one...and if we change our minds down the track, that's fine too.

I think it's completely 'normal' to feel this way, especially when bub is still so young. The most important thing is to make sure you and your partner are communicating about it.

[fionas]

I COMPLETELY understand where you're coming from Leasha.

If it wasn't for my age, I would be very happy to wait until DD goes to school before having another. I absolutely love being able to spend so much one-on-one time with her that I can't imagine not being able to read her a book/go for a walk whenever we feel like it if I also had a newborn to take care of. I'm a bit of a perfectionist so if I think about it in advance, it strikes me that I would be dividing my attention between two and to me that FEELS a bit half-arsed. Now, I'm sure that if and when it actually happens I won't actually feel I'm doing a half-arsed job, I'll feel like I'm doing a no-arsed job some days and a kick-arse job on others. But that's just the way the mind works when it thinks too much. And my mind can always see cons more easily that it sees pros.

Alas, my age means that we can't delay.

As the others have said, if you're not feeling supported by Shel that would have to weigh very heavily on your mind too.

There's no rulebook to say that you have to TTC next year. You can change your mind (and change it back again) - so take the pressure off yourself a bit.