Thank you Lucy and Ryn, Im really beginning to understand myself, why i am the person i am today. And i feel liberated. Im not angry at my parents. I just cant believe where i could have ended up, scared of where i could have ended up, and so very thankful of where i HAVE ended up.

It just beggars belief that these people are so cr@p to us and then boast about us when we've run away to escape them!...

it's good that you can get it all out now before it starts to really poison you with it all. Although it's made me slightly touchy with my own MiL (who's fab), it has also made me who I am today and, let's face it, we're both fab people so maybe it's good we needed to "escape" these people.
Im starting to really understand why i hate my inlaws trying to get close to me. It makes me so very uncomfortable. And i feel like when they help Dh and I, they only do it to get something out of it, and would expect never-ending gratitiude (like some people in my family). When i know that isnt the case. I know i have trust issues. Im not used to family being so supportive and helpful, i always think there is a hidden motive.