i hear you about them being here and now- DS is constantly not in the present!
Its funny that you say about the steiner school
the school that the kids go to has an inquiry stream and a steiner stream- my kids do the inquiry stream, as i was thought that DS needed to be grounded more and thought steiner wouldnt be structured enough for them.
However, they still get to participate in parts of the steiner festivals and activities, and are mixing all the time with the steiner classes.
so best of both worlds!

Have you done any research into Chrystal Children, Indigo Children and Rainbow Children??
DS is a chrystal child and from the way that you are speaking, I wouldnt be surprised if your DD is a Chrystal child as well- as chrystal children have been here before- they are the ones that are going to bring peace and harmony to the world.

Its has been hard for their school to accept their gifts and talents- however we are getting there bit by bit- the irony is that DH hasnt had to change to fit into the school environment- the kids around him have changed to be like him!