Hey hon

My brother was born in 1970 - my sister in 1972 - then me in 1977

So there is 4.5 years between me and her - and nearly 7 between me and my brother.

I hated it growing up. I was always left out of things, pushed around, bullied, dragged across the floor by my hair etc - I just never felt close to either of them.

Plus - my brother's friends were way too old for me to perve on them (well, I still had a perve but nothing would have ever happened!!)

But - I am really close to my mum - so thats a good thing?

Thanks Mel - YOUR experience is exactly why i didn't want this gap. Those were the things i was worried about, them not being able to relate, connect, the roles of the brothers being more carers than siblings iykwim??

For instance, this is huger, but theres a 9 year gap between myself and half siblings, me being the oldest by 9 years. And honestly, they never did and still don't feel like siblings but more children i helped with and babysat a lot. I know 5 years is less but still it would be 7 between 1&3.

I guess i had totally ruled out a third child as there is no way i can have another baby any time soon or even in the next couple of years. I just don't have the support to go through another traumatic pregnancy, take care of another severe relflux baby and worst of all risk PND again.

But DH had always wanted to keep a third on the cards for later in life, in 5-7 years. Though i feel this kind of age gap is unfair, and i can't see any benefit in it apart from being easier, as only one at home, two older etc.

So i dunno, i guess i was hoping to hear a really positive experience about it....