It is such a hard decision! We have decided that two is enough and we're both really comfortable with that now. I took awhile to come around, Buster has been such an easy bub and I thought for months 'oh I could do this again no worries!' lol.
Then one day I held a friends baby and for the first time I didn't have that overwhelming emotional reaction, I just thought 'I don't want one of these' and I have been the same since. A few friends have recently announced pregnancies which admittedly had me thinking things over...but am still happy with our two boys.
Our youngest is now one and our eldest is about to start kinder. We're finally out of that baby stage and we're looking forward to doing other things as a family without the feeding/sleeping/settling groove added in. We're looking forward to going away more, doing things for ourselves by getting back into hobbies, our boys are great together, I can be a SAHM or even go back to uni which I couldn't do if we had another baby.
DH and I felt similar to you and your DP. I felt I would regret not having more, he didn't really want more. But he told me he could not deny me another child if I might resent him because of it, and he didn't want me living in regret. So we had #3.
Now, I would like to have #4, but he is dead-set against it. But this time is different. I know his reasoning and agree with alot of it. I can see past not having another child. If we were to have another, so be it. It would definitely be an oopsie baby, but it would also be terribly loved, like our other children are, by both of us. But I am respecting DH's wishes this time and not going on about having another baby, because I know where he stands. Most of the time, this stuff is all about communication and compromise.
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