Thanks for the replies. I feel like i've already tried these things and they didn't help though, and he gets upset about holding her immediately anyway. I asked my parents about this and they don't think its normal either. Sigh. I don't know what my point, but thanks for responding and i'll keep trying. It's just so hard because I am so totally heartbroken (i know what its like to be a daughter with an uninterested father) and terrified. It doesn't seem to be getting better, it seems to be getting WORSE. I thought he was just tired at first, but then he actually told me that he doesn't like having her around at all. This all started because I asked him what he thought about number two, thank goodness I'm not pregnant again.
He doesn't show any caring whatsoever. I didn't expect him to be head-over-heals for her immediately, like fiona said, it takes time for a relationship to develop. But he doesn't even LIKE her.