BIG problem! DDs dad doesn't love her

[Lulu]

Do you have set times for him to come and visit? I'm not sure how you work it, but if it was possible for him to visit with bubs - whilst you sleep. Even one hour, 3 times a week could make a difference for you, and you need to rest!

Yeah, course he is now the parenting EXPERT. It's only to undermine your confidence bit by bit. Can you imagine how you would feel as a parent if you were well fed and rested and could swing by and spend a bit of time with the kids when you felt like it, and hand them back when they smell? (This is coming from someone with three littlies and NO SLEEP so you might not feel the same!).

If he comes to visit, let it be your terms (sounds like they are anyway) and beneficial to you too. I good way to gauge if he is bonding with bubs or doing it to manipulate you is to not see him when he visits.
My exH visits to my daugher (not his though) dropped off noticeably after I made myself scarce (also to avoid his stupid,"harmless" comments) during the visit.

Good luck with everything, I hope you have another good nights sleep tonight...xoxoxoxo

[Lil_Aussie]

Hi Hun

Just sending you and your precious baby girl a huge
You are doing such a great job protecting your family, and making sure your daughter grows up able to appreciate her father,,, as if you had stayed together,, she would have grown up knowing how much she was unloved by her dad,, and how badly he treated you, as being normal for men to treat women. She may have even sought out a partner exactly the same,, abusing, and totally self centred uncaring etc etc.... the whole "daughters grow up seeking partners who are their fathers " bit and and all.
Maybe take a copy of the photo of what he did to your face, and keep it where you need it,,, so whenever you are badly tempted to "forgive all" and take him back,, you can have a look,, and remember that this is what a person who is meant to be your soul mate, and treat you like the amazing beautiful woman you are,, did to you,,, and may have ended up taking out his rage on your precious baby one day too.

I am soo glad that his attitude has changed toward your buba now that you are separated. it may well be like the others suggested that he was just way too young to be able to cope maturely, and handle the pressures that having a young family have on you both. So, now that that pressure is lifted,,, he may be able to now appreciate just how spectacular his daughter really is, but i really would be wary of him trying to get back together,, as i have heard of this situation many times,,, and once the pressures are back on,,, they revert once again to abuse ,,, and sometimes,,,,it is too late and the ultimate price is paid for their rage.

All the best with this hun,, and pls let us know how things are going,,, you always have the support of everyone here on BB :