boys & dancing

[1MOREPLZ]

it is just jazz...
and you know what..he is quite good at it..ex-husband taped abit of DS dancing...picked it up after 15mins...
DS has already said he doesn't want any of his footy mates to find out as they will say stuff to him...
i worry about the after effect..

[1MOREPLZ]

i honestly don't care (well i do) BUT if DS does want to (himself) dance and he isn't being pushed into it..then i don't care. BUT i won't push or let my ex-husband push him into it just because it gets him more time alone with his new fiance.

[SamiH]

Yeah, I agree - that is a separate issue entirely Kat. How will you find out though? Is the class run at the same time as your daughters and does ex DH do a drop and run or does he stay???

If she is already his fiancee - surely she accepts the children come with the package and her and ex DH must spend time together at other times etc. Why would grabbing that hour be critical?

We will never know some people's motives hey. Just try and be supportive for your son and hopefully he will tell you himself if it is what he wants to do.

[Kitt3n]

oh hun if that is why your ex is pushing him onto that is just so sad

poor lil fella, why play on kids like that? my ex does the same, tears DD apart.

i guess the best thing then is to let him have a trial class - if he actually enjoys it (and you are there to see how he reacts when he first comes out of the class) then let him go. but if its dad's idea and on dad's time then dad can pay for it..........

hugs bella, its hard

[Lulu]

Maybe your silly exH has worked out that the ladies love a man that can dance ?

[Tobily]

I don't think that dancing is really the issue

I think the problem is that you want one thing, XDH wants another, and your DS is somewhere in between - perhaps trying to please everyone?

I think both of you need to put your preferences aside and let your son make a decision without feeling pressure to do one or the other. THEN work out how you feel and where to go from there.

[Visitor8]

I don't know but I think there should be more male dancers If the boys didn't go to their dads every 2nd weekend I would have had them both in Jazz months ago

[Bathsheba]

I recommend hiring the Billy Elliot DVD

If your DS wants to dance then I'd let him.

Having been a child who was pushed into the activities my parents wanted me to do (golf being one) I would NOT recommend it at all.