Ok when I was UTD with #2 we found out she was to be a girl so both BHL and I said we were done as been preggers doent agree with me... So I was happy we were to have one of each... But the day she was born and I look down apone her face I told BHL that I am not done that she isnt my last....

Hence we now have three... After my 3rd I said I was done if people ask I said we were done, that I was happy with three and thats it for us.... But when she turned 1 I lost it was so very upset that my baby was growing up so fast and told BHL I wasnt done that I really feel the need to have another, At the time he was ok with it but now he isnt so sure the closer it gets to the time where I had said that I want to TTC ( April 09 ) the less and less happy he is about it...

So I too wonder how much do I really want this, if we go for a 4 th will in ruin the relationship I have with BHL ( I would only go ahead if he is happy with it ) would I cope with 4... But every one I have asked about having a 4 th has said once you have 3 you can cope with more... So like you I guess I hope you just know I hope that the urge does go... But I know the urge for a 4th hasnt dulled for me yet so I know that if I dont have a 4th ( or at least TTC the 4th ) I may just regret it and begruge BHL for latter on...So for us only time will tell... Maybe after we move and settle and the blooming market settles BHL will feel better for it...

BTW my mum has alway said you just know when you are done and like Bath said you dont feel sad when your little one grows you just enjoy watching them do it... ( but she had 7 so i always thought no wonder you knew you were done )