I have never lived on a base but have heard it can be a bit clichey and some women live by their DH's rank which is so stupid! When we were in Darwin my DH was a private and one of my closest friends DH was the brigadier!! DH's boss actually told him to tell his wife (me) to stop talking to the brigs wife. For my friend and I who were both teachers we were women who had a lot in common and were friends and what our husbands did was immaterial.