Alioops, Thankyou, Yeh it would be costly but thankfuly if DH is away for more than 6mth DCO will move me but i am really unsure still.... As for getting on base without a pass...if you know someone else going they can sign you on..even just a spouse or i think last week at playgroup one of the mums just had her name up at the front guard room and got a pass....if they arent sure they can always call through etc...

I do have to keep reminding myself that the boys will be older and they will understand but man its hard to think in advance seeming the now is so painful with these boys but i will survive :0)

Thanks again