Inertia, I completely understand what you mean about me and DP being united.. We are sort of.. I mean he doesn't go against me.. He does back me up and it is kind of what I say goes but He would just probably let things go more than I would if I wasn't there. Do I make sense? And as for the "Your not my mother" yes I am waiting for that.. Fortunately as I have been around for as long as he can remember, it hasn't yet occured to him to say it YET!! I am sure it will come and I hope to respond with something like "I am not trying to be your mother but I am still part of your family and I just want to do whats best" or something like that.. I know when it does come up he wont care how I respond at the time, but I am fairly sure he will have respect for me when he is old enough to understand family dynamics.. I hope so anyway, I have put a lot of hard work into that child and love him like my own..