I have a stepson who is nearly 19 now. I have known him since he was 8, he use to live with us when we where in the same town. I would like to think that him and I have a pretty good step relationship I am very up front and tell things how i see it. From the word go I told him that I was not has mother and I has no intenion of taking to role of mother way from his real mum. If he did something wrong I would get mad at him but I feel that it was not my place to smack him (not that he ever go smacked). But for the most part he was a good kid.