I find the opposite with my friends. A lot are yet to have children and just have no idea what it is like to have small children, ie - I can't go and hang out at funky coffee shops at ridiculous times with a one year old! It is very hard now that we have moved interstate and I only see my old friends when I am visiting Perth as I can't just invite them over like I used to because I am staying with my parents or ILs. Sometimes I just wish they would invite us over to one of their places rather than suggesting ridiculous venues! Oh well, one is preggers now so will soon realise.... I also sometimes get a little jealous when I see my friends or old colleagues get promoted to positions I know I would be in had I still been working and while I would not change my life at all, sometimes I wish it was me... especially when a completely incompetent (and childless) old colleague of mine recently got appointed an associate!
I feel the divide between myself and my friends because we were the first in our group of friends to have my babies at 26 and 28. I made new friends through my babies (while still trying to stay in touch with old ones) and then later my friends then started theirs when mine were between 5 and 7. Now their babies are older and my friends I made with children the same age as mine have 9 and 11 year olds as mine are and now I find myself due to give birth number three. So I feel I don't fit in with anyone now. They all have the reaction "oh god so glad it's not me!" Which hurts everytime you hear it, and gets old real quick. Some have been positive but not many..yes it was a surprise pregnancy and yes I'm now 37, and yes its Ok for them to think it but do they have to keep saying it.
So thats my story, gets abit lonely at times but soon I'll be juggling three kids so hopefully I won't have time to feel too lonely.
All the best
Cheers Missy
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