Do you tell them?

[*Infinity*]

I think Epacris hit the nail on the head....actions definitely speak louder than words. DP doesn't verbalise it as much as I do, but every piece of him - what he does, how he acts, how he cares for DS - demonstrates how much he loves his son.

I agree with Leasha too....sometimes words can be very empty.

[westy]

Sorry i didnt mean to come across as though those people who's parents dont tell their children that they love them, love them any less then a parent who tells their children 10 times a day that they love them (does that make sense).....i'm just saying that i for one would feel very sad if my own parents didnt tell me they loved me at all during my childhood.

[briggsy's girl]

i wasn't told i was loved as a kidlet, and very rarely by mum now (dad never - and his actions are clearly NOT showing that!) - i really struggled to tell DH i loved him even when i knew i did - so when he was working away, we started telling each other before the end of every call and it became second nature. if we leave the house, we say it to each other. when we come home we say it. sometimes just sitting there.

this has translated into us being able to say it to DD whenever she is around. before every sleep she gets a cuddle and a "love you bubba girl". when she wakes up, i walk up the hallway talking to her so she doesnt get distressed - and as i unwrap her i tell her that i love her

i grew up in a home where tehre was little to no expression of love and i don't want that for my DD. i know a LOT of households where there is love where it's never verbalised, but it's obvious in the actions of the people that they love each other. that wasnt' teh house i grew up in - and i don't want that for DD. we tell her all the time and she is a very affectionate little poppet already - she asks for kisses and will cuddle and kiss us all the time (she comes off the boob and says kiss kiss and wn't attach again til she gets her kiss!)

so yeah, we say it multiple times as it's just part of our normal day. it's not forced, it's natural - and we express it with both actions and words