Thanks guys,

DH is waiting to see if a letter from FRA is in the mail today, she refused to go to the first meeting and then when she got the letter about no attendance (the one that says to use in court) she contacted them and apparently she went last wednesday. If there is no letter he will call them tomorrow.

DSS is aware of the situation going on - TBH i think they are sick of her...

Ash - I am sure that there is some sort of grieving going on, but she is not the mother that you are... there are a couple of threads on here about her, she has used drugs on and off, has had a fail workcover claim, now is trying for a TAC disability and has emotionally abused DSS for years...
She has never tip toed around us, she believed and still does that DSS is her possession to use for money and self gain (mostly pity )
Recently she threatened to kill herself so that her sister would understand what a burden he is (in front of him)
So while i understand your point - he is sick of the situation and his school work has fallen behind as he is cooking dinner or doing housework for her, last Thursday he did her filing instead of homework and as a result had to spend the entire day Saturday at our place doing his assignment.
Sorry if that comes across abrupt...

Megs - you hit the nail on the head

Thanks LB xx

DH just rang, she called and has been screaming about how its not fair for her and she needs the income, how will she cope... DH responded with 'its not about you, its about DSS and how he will cope...