Mylitta has made a very good point. Document every night that he has stayed with you and when it has begun from, it is highly likely that she will dispute when he entered your care and left hers.
Thanks for sharing Mylitta - i didnt know that we could still have to pay her CS even though he spends the majority of time here! I have written on the Calendar when he has come and gone, so it is easy to track, and everytime something out of the ordinary happens i make a note in my phone calendar now...
Lions and bears - i am pretty sure that we cant use them as she has seen the previously (when they split in 1999) but we contacted them for advice years later and they still would not speak with us... which is a bit annoying - but there you go!
It's true about the CS. If my wage increases just a bit I will have to start paying my ex child support. My DD only see him every second weekend.
What makes it particularly sucky is that in 8years I have received a grand TOTAL of $668 from him. I have not received a cent in over five years
Sammiejane - your DH's ex and mine could be twins. DSS (16) will not be returning to school next year and will be working so he is no longer the cash cow that his mother requires, so you can bet your "A" that he will no longer be living with her.
With regards to writing things on calendars beware! We had an informal shared care arrangement. DH wrote down all times that the kids stayed with us, what essentials we had to buy them (shoes/clothing etc). He submitted this to CSA. CSA wrote a letter to the ex and she disagreed with the number of days that we had them. CSA took the ex's word for it and DH basically got a "too bad, so sad" letter and had to continue to pay full maintenance.
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