Oh Astrid, I hear you. Hugs sweetie, is can be isolating.

I have two very active boys, and to keep an eye on them both out and about is near impossible, let alone try to join in a conversation as well (or have a coffee even). For this reason I only have a small number of people I can see during the day - those that have childproof houses or will come here. Although I did recently discover the local indoor play centre was a great place for a meet up. Unfortunately it cost $13 to get in (which included a coffee), so it's not for every day or every week. But for an occassional outing - wow, it was great. The boys were both occupied in a safe environment. Each mum took a turn in eyeballing every child every couple of minutes, so for once I got to enjoy a coffee and adult conversation. Pure bliss!

I would suggest that you explain your dilemma to your friends. Those that are happy to make life easier for you are true friends. Those that aren't, well, you just won't see them as much. But hopefully you can build up a network of people who will come to you. Hopefully you will meet more people through existing friends, playgroups, local playground etc until you feel less isolated.

I know I hate asking people to go out of their way. But sometimes we just have to meet our own needs first - as a mum it doesn't always happen very often!