oh dear! Yeah you need somewhere to vent cause you can't say anything to them hey??
At least he loves her, and these things are his way of trying to get close to her and be her friends (eg. lollies).
Can I just say, that males of that generation in my limited experience are CRAP at the practicalities of parenting? My FIL "looked after" my DD 6 months, one morning for 3 hours, we came back she hadn't eaten, hadn't ahd her nappy changed and he put her in her cot because she wouldn't stop crying... so now I say EXACTly what they should do, and I know they think I'm patronising them.

My own Dad is fantastic but never thinks to change my girls' nappies, has no idea about sterilisation, basically no intuition although both he and my FIL both adore my daughters and really do care about them.

it's such an annoying situation hey? Try and show them some literature/pamphlets on feeding etc so they know it's not just you. Just kind of say, "hey I thought you might like to read these, I know your probably doing most of them anyway, but I found them really helpful" or some such nonsense! Dad's are easier than mums, cause they think they know it all as they have already raised children!!