I've lived the last few years simply surviving on ear plugs. Yep, you heard me. I buy them by the carton, the little foam industrial ones, and I just hope to god DP hears the smoke alarm if it ever goes off.
I hate not being aware of my surroundings, but I can't do it any other way. I don't know what I will do when we have babies and I need to be alert during the night. I guess have no sleep! haha
See the thing is, DP is a different person when he is asleep. During his waking hours, he is kind caring etc etc, but when he is alseep, he flat out refuses to roll over.Tells me: No, you roll over! Quite funny really. It upsets him he is like that, because if he had the sense he does when he is awake, he would absolutely roll over if i asked him.
One memory he has of his childhood is how upset he was over his parents sleeping in separate beds (FIL is a snorer too) and it means a lot to him for us to share a bed. It's just painful when I don't sleep.
I'm not sure if it will help with your DH but my DH was a chronic snorer, many a night I'd kick him out cos I couldn't sleep. He decided to give up dairy and voila - his snoring is pretty much non existent. Unless of course he's had a few too many drinks and then it starts up again. Maybe worth a shot?
Snoring can still indicate mild apnoea. My DH has just been diagnosed with moderate to severe apnoea. He stopped breathing up to 93 times an hour and for as long as 30 seconds at a time. He's shocked at how bad it is. I'm not...I'd been at him for the last 18 months to get a sleep study done. The last two nights have been bliss with the CPAP machine. Another indicator was that DH has continued put on weight over the last year despite changing his diet and starting regular exercise.
kimmi - I spent many nights while pregnant sleeping on the couch worrying how things would be once bub was born. You learn to sleep when you can. I'll wake for DD but DH snoring doesn't bother me as much since DD was born.
yes I was in your situation for 12 years!!, we tried EVERYTHING under the sun, you name it - we tried it, and then enough was enough, we were sleeping in separate rooms, we were fighting because we were sleeping in separate rooms, it almost came down to divorce it got that bad!!
I MADE dh go to a sleep lab, where he had to spend the night with all these things attached to his head and chest etc, and it turned out he had sleep aponea. At no stage did I ever hear him stop breathing, we just thought it was a snoring problem. Since then we have never looked back, dh now wears a cpap mask (took him a few months to get used to it) and he doesn't snore anymore and he wakes up feeling really refreshed after a good nights sleep. The only time he has snored with it on is when ds has fiddled with the settings on the cpap machine while we weren't looking (cheeky monkey).
Even if you think its not sleep aponea, he should get checked just incase, it worked for us and I can highly reccomend it. And if your dh thinks he can't sleep with one of those masks on, just remind him that it will take a few months to get used to it and to stick with it. It is totally worth it in the end
Snoring, yes, that my hubby too! I do a lot of couch sleeping when it gets bad...it drives me nuts that he is sleeping away and I am lucky to get one wink. Anyway, it's worse if he has any kind of alcohol or if he is sick... but I nudge and jab if he is sleeping on his back, b/c it isn't quite so bad when he lies on his side. He was tested for apnea, but it came back negative. Go figure.
About the separate rooms-- We have a half-way compromise right now. I WANT to sleep in the same room, but if I start to get nasty 'cause I haven't had much sleep, then that is it and I move. We are much happier that way. Still, he gets the bed....Urrrggghhhh!
I went through the kicking him and rolling him over etc etc, then the sleeping on the lounge which made me cranky as I like to sleep with him next to me.
So now I sleep with earplugs in, I have industrial strength ones DH got from work.
Funnily enough I will wake as soon as I hear DD but it muffles the snoring enough for it not to bother me.
DH is terrible if he is on his back so I prop him up against a pillow so he can't roll down - works a treat.
Before I found that I used to pound on the mattress (he thought that I was trying to attack him one night when I tapped him on the shoulder!) and the vibration would wake him enough to move
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The only time he has snored with it on is when ds has fiddled with the settings on the cpap machine while we weren't looking (cheeky monkey).
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