When it happens here (yep still does on the occasion) we remove W from the room by just either picking up, giving him a big bear hug or gently moving him with our hand to their room so they can calm down in piece without saying one word. sometimes talking and trying to calm down can drag it out and make the situation worse. we ever stop eye contact because its more to comprehend for him.

Maybe after an episode ask her why she screamed and she what she says. Id write down what has set her off and see if there is a pattern to, textures, pressures, noices ect.

My neighbours understand now what goes on....dont be ashamed babe....she's only little and there is no way you could be a child beater...your to gentle of a person for that

ring me if you need me babe