How do I do this??

[kiwidolly]

I split with DD's dad a while back, a mutual decision between both of us and I did tell him that there would be a possibility of me seeing another guy. I have started seeing this new guy and my DD loves him, talks about him all the time etc in front of her dad. Ex-P is ok with the new guy.

This guy and I will be moving in together at the end of February and my DD will be there. How do I get them being comfortable with each other? They have spent days together and she trusts him. I don't think there will be any problems with that, but how do I make it a smooth transition for them both??

TIA

[Doula Kelsey]

Hey kiwidolly, I so get where you are coming from. I have 5 kids (well 3 teens and 2 under that now) and i split
from their dad 7 yrs ago. I met a man, and he was awesome (you are lucky your ex likes him, mine did not as
he felt replaced!!). When we got together (nearly 5 years ago now) my youngest was 3. My now hubby, moved in and
there was not really any change in the way life was. The kids embraced him and accepted him into our clan and he
has been and is very loved. The kids did not need to be prepared, as they were always going to just take it in their stride.
As long as i did not lose my focus as mum and they felt loved and adored by me and knew nothing had really changed,
they felt safe and all was well. We just got married (nov 11th 2011) and are a very happily family. If he is a good
man (your kids let you know) then dont worry about it. She will be fine, he will be fine, you will be fine and together
you will create a beautiful new family together.

[Doula Kelsey]

Oh, and excuse my title...i so keep putting the CAPTCHA in the title...sigh

[kiwidolly]

Thank you! You are right. I believe it will work, just feeling a little nervous about it all!

[Doula Kelsey]

Thank you! You are right. I believe it will work, just feeling a little nervous about it all!

Perfectly normal to feel that way but from what you have expressed, all will go beautifully.
So good that you will also have the support you need

[kiwidolly]

Thank you. I guess I just needed to hear it from other people. Feeling a little fragile at the moment.