Hi Kelly
Oh My God did your story sound so familiar. I met my now partner Jeff in 1999 knowing he had a 3 year old daughter Krystal and boy did I step into a messy separation, but we fought all the way in the courts, after 2 years of courts(and alot of money) we got all visitation rights and it is all in documents so the mother of Krystal has no say if she changes her mind( which she used to do alot). He has visitation once a fortnight and half of all holidays and for 3 straight weeks over xmas, father's day, every 2nd Easter/Xmas, we even get her for half a day on mother's day. I understand it must be difficult living so far away, but if you get to court and get it all sorted then he will get his rights and should have access every school holidays. It is better for the children to know that he has fought for them and it will give for a better relationship between him and the kids in the future. Hope this has helped a little.