Do you think relationships should require effort to work?

or do you think that if you are RIGHT for each other you should just be able to be yourself and go with the flow and you will be happy

for example... Things requiring effort....

You always worry about how you partner is feeling, not because you want to, but because you need to make sure they are happy, because they are high maitenience and them not being happy would result in a fight, argument, mind games etc....problems for you... Etc

Do you think if you have to constantly worry about another persons feelings, moods and possibly behaviour, then it's too much work, or effort. Or do you think that's normal?

I personally think that if you are 'soul mates' then you should be able to truly be yourself, express yourself, let your guard down, and be able to relax around that person, and have that excited butterfly feeling, that you always WANT them around etc I think you can disagree but also compromise without fighting, and belittling the other person....etc

am I unrealistic or do some of you actually have the perfect relationship that you dreamed of?

maybe I just didn't think about the bigger picture

if you feel you truly found true love, everlasting happiness and you are honestly without fighting and drama please put your hand up.....and add your opinion
And if not please also add your two cents

This has been playing on my mind for ages and I need to get this out

Thank you in advance

I don't think true love, the kind I expected in my fairytale image of my life, should require so much work, worry etc.....