Thanks Rhichichi,

It IS a hard decision. She had no aversions at all when DS was coming along, but I guess now she knows what it all means So it's hard to know whether this is just a phase or whether it could end up being a very difficult thing. If she IS on the spectrum, it's the very high functioning end. She is like a normal kid in many ways, but has her quirks ITMS. And ticks too many of the boxes to rule out aspergers. At the very least she has sensory sensitivities. We have our first proper appointment with a paed at the Child development and Behavoiural clinic next month so we'll take it from there.

Would LOVE some idea's from other spectrum mums though.