Thanks everyone - you have given me some food for thought.

I know I am not ready just yet - i have just returned to work part time and I do want some more one on one time with E, but I think i need to think about the pros and cons off all options.

Thanks again!

Lenny - DH and I havent really talked too much about it - which is why I was posting in a way. to get some idea on pros and cons for us to discuss