Just remember in life if we were perfect at everything what would be the point. I believe that each day is a lesson, if today my DD has a tantrum and I manage to get her under control without yelling and screaming- I have learnt something. If I get to bed tonight and my dishes and dirty and my cleaning washing is in a basket, but the kids are happy, fed and sleeping peacefuly I have also learnt something.
Life is about give and take, we give of ourselves, and peopel readily take- you are HUMAN, and there are always things we could do better, or differently- but my favourite saying is "we do the best we can, with what we have- and you don't know what you don't know!"
Imagine how you would have felt if you stood in public and screamed, yelled, ranted and swore at your DD because she was having a tantrum?
Maybe each night you should go to bed, and first tell yourself 1 thing you did brilliantly that day, and then pick 1 thing you would like to do better tomorrow!
PP dont beat yourself up honey - you sound like a fabulous mum... it is good to reflect on the day but make sure you also think about all the great things you have done - big and small. from what i have read from you i think you are a great mum.
xxx
I am having doubts as well as we are moving interstate next week (which is great!) but i didnt think getting a job would be so hard. I am in a profession i thought people would be throwing jobs at me, but when talking to employers they are all concerned i havent worked in 10 months (i have 2 under 2 give me a break!!) and i guess it makes me now doubt if i can keep working or need to loose my career over wanting to stay with my babies and only work casually.
I never saw a problem with casual work - i didnt think i would get this response and NO i dont want to put my DS (8months) in CC -that is my choice, i want to raise my babies and work in the off hours!
i dont know seperate issue but all compounding if you know what i mean.
How about tonight you list all the positive things you did for your family today. Starting with feeding them breakfast and getting them dressed for the day.
If I've had an exceptionally bad day with my kids I actually go back in late at night for a cuddle, and sometimes they wake and we have chatters and I explain how I felt I wasn't as attentive or I was a bit grumpy or whatever and that I'm going to try and make tomorrow a better day (another words apologise). Its good for a few reasons, I'm a paranoid neurotic and if I do this I can sleep. It also teaches my children I am not infallible and it teaches my children that I do take responsibility for my actions, and it also teaches them to do the same. Numerous times DD will come to and do the same and we snuggle and have chatters.
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