I'm done. Now to concentrate on raising my only child.

**LysnDan** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:02 PM

DH and I had "the talk" tonight. :-(

Our gorgeous DD will be an only child.

It's not what I really wanted. I wanted to have at least 2 living children, but instead I have angels watching over my DD.

We decided due to my complications during pregnancy and fertility issues that we will not be TTC again in the future. We are looking at getting DH snipped... :-(

Instead, I am very focussed on my family. Which will be "just us 3... for eternity... "

I suppose I wanted to vent and get it out... I am glad I have BB to do that.

Thanks for reading.

**Danielle_NZ** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:05 PM

Sorry I can't offer advice but wanted to offer big hugs

**PumpkinZulu** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:07 PM

I'm so sorry PP

Go gently babe.

**Miss.B** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:12 PM

Wishing you all the best for your future hun. It would be a hard decision to make and accept. Big hugs hun, thinking of you

**Gigi** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:21 PM

that decision was made for me too, i appreciate how upsetting it is, i still struggle with it, years later. LIke you, i have to focus on rearing the one child i do have, and realising myself, that i find rearing ONE child quite a challenge, so maybe it has worked out for the best. Doesn't stop the cluck-o-meter.

**LysnDan** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:24 PM

Doesn't stop the cluck-o-meter.

Definitely not. I can live vicariously through friends and family!

It still doesn't take away the pain though. We should have been able to make that decision because we have had enough living babies, not because of history, illness or infertility. Huge hugs to you to Gigi x

**Ladylove** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:25 PM

PP that's a big and very brave decision. Good on you, and lots of hugs. I hope this eventually brings a sense of peace for you. X

**RhiChiChi** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:35 PM

Such a tough decision to come to, one we were almost faced with too given our infertility and m/c issues. Huge hugs

**peanutter** · May 22nd, 2013, 10:36 PM

That's really rough, and really brave for you voicing it.

I'm so glad you have a safe space to do so.

There are lots of happy healthy fulfilled families of 3, whether by choice or by nature or due to other reasons. You're not alone.

My mum was an only child, and her parents found different ways of integrating other kids and families, and for maximising the specialness of a family of three unit.

You'll find your own path too, hun.

**~Hestia~** · May 22nd, 2013, 11:21 PM

That must have been a very hard decision to come to

**kerbear** · May 23rd, 2013, 12:20 AM

Very hard decision to make, enjoy the little family you have made xo

**Mrs O'M** · May 23rd, 2013, 06:04 AM

Hugs PP, your road to this decision has not been easy, and I am sorry you are in this position at all.

Be kind to yourself and enjoy your awesome family!

**TickToc** · May 23rd, 2013, 06:07 AM

Hugs pp, I know this is hard for you xxx

**sepata** · May 23rd, 2013, 07:53 AM

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**Nai** · May 23rd, 2013, 08:24 AM

PP - what a difficulty decision for you to have to make.

FWIW - I am an only child and it isn't necessarily a negative thing. There are many many positives and opportunities for extended "family" beyond blood ties.