It was a long time coming really, but I cut my dad out of my life 8 weeks ago. Its been a lot easier than I thought, the hardest being my relationship with my mum, sister and brother.
It all came to a head after my second daughter was born, my parents wanted to visit over the weekend, I said no because we were busy, my dad called me a few nights later half drunk.
He had so many lovely things to say about me (not) but what did it for me was when he started saying hurtful things about my fiance who had done NOTHING to deserve such hatred. I told him then and there not to contact me again.
Its been hard because not even my mother thinks what he said was wrong, nor his previous behaviour. I guess thats normal in an abusive relationship. I find it hard to talk to my mum, I asked her once if she felt I deserted to be hit by my dad. Her response? A very long pause followed by a I don't know.
My brother is trying to say my dad is not that bad. And my sister doesn't even have a voice in the family!
My dad is very poisonous and controlling. I'm glad he is out of my life.