As most of you will know, Ryan and I have both been married before and both have 2 children from our previous marriages. Emma and Jack live with us and Sian (11) and Bree (eight) live with their Mum in Queensland.

I have been with Ryan since mid 2001 and in all that time I have met the girls only once when we went to the Gold Coast Dec 2003 for a couple of weeks. We took Emma and Jack too obviously and they all had a great time together. We haven't seen the girls since then ... no photos for Ryan, no card on his birthday no nothing! Ryan did try and get to visit the girls early in our relationship but he was on the last Ansett flight from Perth to Sydney and the only option he had at that time was to accept Qantas' offer to fly him back to Perth immediately. He was devastated.

My big thing is that I want Ryan to go to court ... I want him to fight for visitation rights to the girls. I want them to know what a great Dad he is and how much he loves them and how heart broken he is because their Mum won't help maintain contact in anyway.

Ryan won't go to court ... he doesn't want to cause trouble for the girls ... even though I tell him he would probably get visitation rights alot better than the ones he has now. His XW hasn't legally changed their surname but at school they are known by her last name. It upsets Ryan so much ... also she NEVER sends him photos of the girls and the only photos he gets are the ones she sends to his Dad. The last lot of photos didn't even have any photos of just the girls ... she always sends photos of all the kids together (she has 5 now). Since we have been together he has never received a card for his birthday or Father's Day and any phone contact that he has with them is the call he makes and even then he has to a leave a message on the answer machine about 5 times before she will answer the call.

Ryan has a wonderful relationship with Asha ... he cherishes the time with her so much as he didn't get it with his girls. She loves her Daddy to pieces and I have seen him shed a tear when she says I love you Daddy and gives him a big hug! My biggest point is that it shouldn't be like this and he should be able to spend time with the girls ... Ryan's family here in Perth have never even met Bree ... only seen photos. We have offered a few times to have the girls fly over so that they can see Ryan's family but his XW has said NO!!! She even told Ryan that she wouldn't let them go because she would miss them too much.

Now I must be a different kind of person as my kids have never missed out on contact with their Dad. He sees them every holidays and has since I moved to Perth. The kids used to fly to Adelaide to stay with him and then when he moved to Pt Hedland they flew to see him there and then he moved to Lake Grace and he picked up the kids and took them there for their holidays. He now lives in Northam and still sees them every holidays without fail. I honestly do not know how a Mother could not want their child to know their Father (unless of course it was detrimental to the child). Ryan never hit her, never made her go without ... in fact he moved from Perth (where his family lives) to Central Queensland to be closer to her family. I honestly think that it is more about the fear that girls will enjoy being with Ryan so much that they will want to live here with us and then she wouldn't know what to do. I would never stop the girls from living with us but I honestly dont think it is going to happen. There is so much else I could tell you about her but it is really not worth it.

Anyway thanks for reading this I guess I am not really looking for suggestions but just needed to get it off my chest ... I can not even begin to understand what goes on inside this woman's head!!! I think maybe it is time Ryan started to push the point about the girls coming to Perth for a holiday.

Thanks again for reading ...